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"Six Pillar Of Self Esteem - Discover The Limits To Your Self Esteem" By Kevin J. John

Self esteem is one of the key requisites for personal growth. Without it you will not be able to function effectively as a person or form high quality relationships with other people. Yet so often we mistake self esteem for “having a high opinion of ourselves”.

There is not limit to how much genuine self esteem you can have once you are clear about what you mean by self esteem.

The six pillars of self esteem are the essential requirements to developing a healthy self esteem, but what do we mean by self esteem?

There are two parts to your self esteem:

1. The confidence to believe in yourself and your decisions. You trust your own mind to think well and cope with the basic challenges that life throws at you.

2. The feeling of self worth – you believe that you are entitled to be happy and to receive the rewards that your deserve for the efforts that you make.
Don’t confuse self esteem with arrogance

One mistake that you might mistake is to confuse self esteem with arrogance, boasting, and obnoxious, overbearing behavior. This kind of behavior is more often due to low self esteem leading to the need to be constantly validated by others.

If you have high self esteem you do not need to show off, after all you are confident about your own capabilities. As importantly, you don’t need the constant praising and approval of others to achieve happiness, your own self worth will tell you that you should be happy.

The idea of too much self esteem can also come from people of low self esteem – they can feel uncomfortable and unhappy when they are in the presence of someone with a much higher self esteem. What they are really saying is that they would rather deal with other people of low self esteem…

Low self esteem is not an excuse…

Another temptation is to use your self esteem as an excuse for your results. Yes self esteem is very important if you are to be happy and successful, but many people have achieved success without it.

As well as self esteem you need other personal characteristics such as energy, drive, a positive work ethic, openness to learning… A high self esteem complements and reinforces all these other characteristics.

Surveys of successful people have shown that one of the most common drivers for success is to prove themselves to someone else – a parent, a spouse, their peer group, a teacher can all have influenced them. Their drive comes from their sense of unworthiness, in other words their lack of self esteem in one area of their life.

The problems that you might encounter if you are driven by a lack of self esteem are that you will find it difficult to enjoy your success to the fullest. The fleeting moment of triumph and vindication will soon be replaced by the drive to prove yourself again. Even worse, you may feel unworthy of your success and end up sabotaging yourself…

Fortunately, there are many reasons why you might be motivated to be successful and it is possible to have a high self esteem and achieve your dreams and achieve great happiness…
There are no limits to your self esteem!

You’ve seen that self esteem is a powerful tool to help you succeed. It can be mistaken for arrogance, but true self esteem is an internal personal happiness about you and your life. Are there limits to how happy you can be?

The answer is no. You can always increase your true self esteem. Everyone, even the most self confident positive thinkers have moments of doubt, everyone has the opportunity to raise their self esteem.

As you think about your self esteem, don’t ever limit your expectations of what you can achieve. If you are prepared to work on your self esteem as part of your ongoing personal development, there are no limits to where you can go!

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Kevin John has spent many years helping businesses owners, aspiring business owners, and private individuals to develop the understanding and skills needed to achieve the success that they want.

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